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That Didn’t Work!

So, as you may have noticed, I have not written for awhile. The last time I wrote I made all of these plans for myself to ensure I continued with my personal goals and passions while returning to work. Since I’m a teacher it is easier to keep my health and well being a focus during the summer. Even the summer can be a struggle sometimes since I’m also a wife and momma! But, once you add teacher to wife and momma it is SO easy to get lost!

And I did and I didn’t when I went “back to work”. Last year, my husband and I taught at the same school in the same district. This year, I went back to work without him! Our district has been changing at what feels like a lightening fast pace. As it changes, it is becoming more of an opportunity to practice being a citizen of heaven living in an alien land! So, to come back without him was SOOOOOO hard! That along with the transition for my daughters going back to school (which can be super hard) made going back to school a MUCH more monumental task than usual! Therefore, I did not write any posts and working out and eating right have at times taken a back seat. In that regard I got lost. BUT….

I also chose to get lost in that way in order to stay found in much more important ways. Last year was a SUPER hard year for my husband at work. In fact it was year 3 of extraordinarily hard years for my husband! And each year I gave EVERYTHING I had in order to lighten his load any way possible. Unfortunately that meant that I had less and less to give, I never managed to fill back up! By the end of last year, I was lost emotionally, gone, spent and felt like I had disappeared or desperately wished I had! I knew that in order to fill back up and be there for my family, I had to be purposeful at staying found this year. To accomplish that, I have been more honest about my heart, I’ve asked for more help, I’ve gone back to work without my husband so he can have a break and be a support for me this time. This means my goals didn’t work, they got lost, but I stayed found!

My girls need a momma and they need one that isn’t always impatient, mad or exhausted! My husband needs a wife who smiles more than she yells or cries (or at least as much, maybe!). I need a heart that will be still long enough to allow Jesus and the Holy Spirit to heal and restore and refill it! That means goals may drop, but I keep moving forward!

I don’t feel restored yet, and this has been my hardest year teaching EVER! My heart is with my family and yet it is needed over and over everyday in my classroom. It’s a struggle that I do not know how I will accomplish. I just put one foot in front of the other, raise my eyes to heaven again and again and again! I pray, I read Philippians 4:13, I trust, cry, and pray more. And, I am finally seeing some blue space in my skies to allow me to write again. To allow me keep trying to find the pathway that God has called me to while blooming where I am planted.

Here we go! Stay tuned, or at least check in from time to time, since who knows when I’ll post again. I’m hopeful it will be soon. Let’s walk this journey together! Tell me about your own journey, I’d love to hear from you!

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Whole30 Journey

I’ve done a Whole24 before and had REALLY good results from it! It increased my energy and regularity and it helped TREMENDOUSLY with my sugar cravings and even sugar toleration. Even now, almost two years later, I drink unsweet tea or unsweet tea with flavoring at Sonic which is still sometimes almost too sweet. I have managed to work up a toleration for Dr. Pepper again, but that took awhile!

So, in trying to finish up the weight loss portion of this temple journey, I’ve toyed with the idea of doing another Whole24 and making it the Whole30 this time!! I’ve only toyed with the idea because deprivation is HARD and usually unsustainable. After all, this journey is supposed to be about sustainable, holy, Christ following changes! The last time my sister and I lugged our munchkins to the Library and the Savoy Tea Company I stumbled across Dallas and Melissa Hartwig’s book, It All Starts With Food. And, I’ve read most of it. There is SO much MORE information in this book about their perspective and the whys and the lifestyle philosophies behind the Whole30 than I found reading on the internet prior to my first Whole24. It turns out that the Whole30 is supposed to springboard you to a sustainable, healthy-eating lifestyle that generally propels you toward greater health with a few thoughtful indulgences along the way just for fun! Hmmmm…. sound like any goals you’ve read on here or found in your own journey toward honoring Christ with the health of your temple!?!

Since it turns out that the philosophy of this way of eating lines up with my heart’s desire to honor Christ, I am going to take the plunge again! It also happens to line up quite nicely with my September 6 goal while still allowing me to start after we take the girls out for a last hurrah tomorrow before I go back to work on Wednesday. The more difficult part will be that it also lines up quite nicely with going back to work (aka increased stress). I also means provided lunch during in services and NO END of sweets and temptations during Meet the Teacher Nights and the the first week or two back at school! Although, health-wise this will be great and help me stay on track during a VERY derailing time, it will also likely lead to some struggles! However, I think, although I truly don’t want to be sacrilegious, “if God is for me who can be against me” can apply even here. I know that these last 4 pounds do not matter to eternity! I also know that they are important to me. And I know that God cares about me and therefore cares about what I care about. I think this will turn out to be a lovely chance to honor Him, and allow Him to continue to shape and sanctify my perspective to focus on Him in all things, through all things and NO MATTER what things!

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Goals, Goals, Goals!

It’s back to school time around here. I go back next Wednesday, August 7th and the girls and the rest of the students join us teachers the following Wednesday, the 14th. So, in our house that means we’ve already started setting goals.

My oldest daughter started a homework packet with great gusto at the beginning of the summer. However, her interest and my insistence waned as the summer waxed. Because of that, she has quite a bit left to accomplish before she returns to school. So, she has the goal of completing 2 pages a day. My youngest is just starting to read and I would like her to have more practice before she starts kindergarten. To help with that she has a goal of reading 2 pages in her decodable books each day. The girls’ school offers a superintendent’s award for reading each semester of school based on the AR points that students earn. They earn points by taking comprehension quizzes on books they read or have read to them. In order to reach the goal of getting that award each of the girls set an AR point goal today for the first semester of school.

In the spirit of this goal setting, I am setting some goals for myself with this blog. I already have some health and fitness goals in place to help with my “temple journey”. I have the goal of losing 5 more pounds by September 6th. I have the goal of completing all of the workouts (except the extra Friday ones) in the Beta phase of Focus T25 in this and the next 4 weeks (even with going back to work next week!!). Now I am setting the lofty goal of writing at least one recipe, one family/faith/farming, AND one health/fitness entry a week for the month of August!

I quite honestly only set goals for myself that I am at least 90% sure I can attain! However, I honestly have no idea if I can reach this one with starting back to school and maintaining my work out goals! But, this is something I enjoy; this is something I want to grow! Right now a lot of my life seems outside of my control. I’d like to stay home with my girls, but God continues to call us to school. I like to know that we have enough money coming in to pay all of our bills, but since my husband resigned from his job at the beginning of July (a decision we made together), I don’t know that. He has received a call for an interview this week and has some other applications out and we are trusting God to provide the best career for him. So, in an effort to focus on the things I can control and things I enjoy, I thought it might be a good idea to set a loftier than usual goal in this! It will give me something concrete and enjoyable to focus on when the chaos surrounds and threatens to overwhelm me!

So, here we go!! What are your current lofty goals? I’d love to hear them!

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Still Going…. Strong!?!

I am still going on this journey of weight loss and health and MOST importantly Jesus worship!! Although, I admit that I am constantly having to readjust my focus to the latter and am more often out of focus than in. My self-imposed timeline of September 6th gets me quite off track in the Jesus focus, but also keeps me on the straight and narrow.

I think I will have to work more at keeping focused ALONG WITH staying on track between now and my next post. I’ll let you know how it goes.

I have lost 11 pounds as of this morning and 12.75 inches so far. I have 5 pounds and 5.5 inches left to lose. I have also completed the Alpha Phase of the T25 workouts from Beachbody. I think that is what I can attribute most of my lost inches to. I continue to track my calories on the My Fitness Pal app and have recently adjusted them back up to 1280 a day instead of 1200 at the suggestion of my accountability friend. I was feeling hungry all the time and dizzy sometimes. With that information and her suggestion that people never go below 1200 calories a day I felt it was best to up my calorie setting. I have trouble using up every single allowable calorie. I feel like I have to have a green number on the side of my totals at the end of the day. This way I can leave 20-40 calories on there and still get enough in my body for what I’m doing.

Like I said earlier, my focus isn’t always what it should be, but I’m working to get there. step by step. I am too grumpy about “deprivation” too often. However, it is up to me if I view it as deprivation or working toward a goal. I was just reading an email from Stephanie at Six Figures Under and although it was a budgeting tip from a budgeting blog, it fits for this journey too. She was talking about decisions we can and need to make today that our future selves will be able to thank us for later. And just like starting a new business or blog or setting up a budget or an IRA fund will give our future selves something monetary to thank us for, we can make health decisions that we can thank ourselves for later. We can budget our calories just like our dollars, we can start a fitness commitment just like a business, we can invest in groceries that truly nourish our bodies and sometimes even our souls just like we invest in an IRA. And then our leaner, healthier, happier and (maybe one of these days when I get my focus right) more peaceful future-selves will thank us for that, too!

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Halfway There (kind of)!

I have reached the half way point of my weight loss!  I have lost 8 pounds and have 8 more to go!  I will hit the halfway mark in my 5 week exercise plan tomorrow.  This morning as I was contemplating the difficulties of this journey and hoping against hope that these last 8 pounds will come off faster than the first 8.  I realize this is a rather unrealistic hope as the closer you get to your ideal weight it is typically harder to lose weight.  However, the hunger I’ve been dealing with and the tiredness after my workouts has been wearying.  So, I am hoping to get to the end of the weight loss part of this journey sooner than later.

I remembered this morning, as I was thinking through all of these halfway points I’ve hit or am coming upon, that this is the part of the “race” that I always struggled with in the half-marathons I’ve run.  I’d try to tell myself that I’d already finished half and I had less left than I’d already accomplished.  It never worked though, and I always felt like I could not run a step further and had to take a walk break.  And, once I took the first walking break, I had to take more and would alternate between walking and running for the whole second half of the race.  I do NOT want to do that in this race.  I am trying to accelerate during the second half this time.  I DO NOT want to prolong this part of the journey!

I also added (kind of) to my title because I am working hard to keep in mind that this journey is forever. Once I reach my weight loss goal, I may or may not have reached my inches or clothing goals. Then once I’ve reached all of those goals I have to maintain them and that is the part of the journey that, for me, is uncharted! I’ve successfully lost all of this weight before! Some might even say I maintained it for a little bit. However, I don’t think I actually, truly maintained it. I was nursing my youngest when I reached my goal weight the first time and only maintained the loss as long as I nursed. Once I stopped nursing, I started gaining. That was because I wasn’t actually maintaining my health or well being and therefore wasn’t able to maintain my weight loss either.

So, now I am staying aware of my tendency to take breaks in the second half of journeys so that I do not take a break this time. And I am working to prepare myself mentally and praying for strength spiritually to maintain or even accelerate my progress in the second half of this part of the journey, and BEYOND!!

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This Journey… Oh This Journey

So, I started this journey at 144.4 pounds.  My goal weight is 128 pounds.  My non scale goal is more muscle than fat and some definition.  I have been doing my best to be faithful to the process while still living life.  I am trying to make changes that I could do forever since I am coming to accept that this is a life long journey.  There have already been some pretty great super-highs and some pretty rough super-lows.  I have done my best to stick with the process and the point through them all.  It’s hard, it’s draining and it can be rewarding!

I have managed in the last 6 weeks to lose just under 6 pounds and 8 inches. I know that this is great and sustainable progress. And that is what I tell myself when the going gets rough! It is also feeling SOOOOO slow! My original goal was to reach my goal weight by the time I went back to school for in-service on August 7th. That doesn’t seem likely given my other and more important goal of doing this without being on a “diet”. It is WAY more important that I model healthy, balanced eating for my girls. So, we have charts for ourselves counting how many fruits and vegetables and cups of water we have each day to give them ownership of their health and good things to add to what they eat. I have one too so that I can continue to focus on what actually matters most: treating my body like a temple, not getting this temple to look like this or fit into that (those are just nice side effects, I’m hoping for!!)

So, I’ve had to extend my date goal to my 40th birthday on September 6th. I continue to tweak things like lowering my daily calorie intake a couple of times in the My Fitness Pal app that I use. I am currently at the lowest calorie amount I will allow myself since these changes need to be sustainable. And I only lowered the calories after I felt that my body had adjusted to where the previous count. When I started tracking calories this time I was starving for 3-4 days. Then things seemed manageable and my weight wasn’t going down like I wanted it to. So, my accountability friend and I decided it would be best for me to stop entering my exercise into the app. That lowered my allowable calories by 100-200 calories. I felt like I was starving for another few days. I think that was due in part to being at training for most of those hungry days. Since I am choosing to “live life” through this process I ate the food that was provided. This meant that sometimes the food had more calories than fullness in it. Then, once I felt like I got good at managing that level of allowable calories, I increased the amount of weight I wanted to lose each week within the app. That brought me to my current allowable 1200 calories a day. This seems doable most days. Life still makes it harder some days than others! Such as when we take the girls out for donuts for breakfast. However, I also want to reach my goal weight!! I hope and pray that THEN maybe I can have a meal or even a day or two when I don’t enter everything I eat and I am still where I need to be health and weight wise.

Like I said earlier, I am coming to accept the truth that I know. There is no finish line and this is a forever journey (at least until my “new” body in heaven!!). Still, I do think it is a legitimate expectation that when I am maintaining there will be more wiggle room. However, for right now I try to keep everything pretty tied down. I do know I cannot handle going lower with my calories. So, if I plateau than I will have to pay closer attention to my macro counts to try to keep moving forward. I may add exercise if I find myself truly stuck, but that I also have to monitor that closely because I can only handle so much time commitment with my family’s schedules. Because I only have so few things left that I can change or moderate AND more importantly and wisely because slow weight loss is the longest lasting weight loss, I will continue to work to be content with my slow progress. I will also remind myself to thank God and rejoice because it is progress! I just read today from Kelsey at Hiitburn that we should focus on “progress not perfection”. I think that mentality matches up very well with this journey toward Jesus in this temple of His that He’s loaned me!

Thanks for reading! It helps me to type about it!!

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Forever is accomplished by small steps!

Since moving into what both my husband and I pray will be our “forever home” (we would NEVER like to build again), we have been working to make it truly into our home! We moved in over Thanksgiving Break and now it is almost July and it seems we’ve only scratched the surface of the “finishing” touches.

The three MAJOR finishing touches are the fences, the detached garage and the barn. Right now he is outside finishing the front left pasture (thank you Jesus for dead weeks)!! Once that pasture is done we can bring our horse and pony home!! We’ve gotten two bids for finishing the garage, but nothing actually nailed down to get it built on the foundation we have gotten completed. The barn just will not happen until next summer as long as we stick to God’s best principles about money, spending, stewarding, borrowing and saving. And, as we were putting mulch into the flower beds my husband designed, formed and welded for me (yes, he’s that good!!), I thought this is a GREAT step forward. Now maybe you’re wondering, like my mom did, what plants we put in. And maybe you’ll be slightly confused, like she was, when I say, “None!” But our flower beds are now beautifully finished with black mulch that contrasts amazingly with the stone work around the bottom of the house and porch and our lovingly transplanted Iris leaves poking out in the corners! We will look for deals on perennial plants at the end of the season and plant some in early fall if we find any. And, although it is tempting to see what isn’t done, I am coming to realize that the joy is found in seeing what is done and looking excitedly forward to what is yet to come.

So, instead of lamenting the fact that we only have a pad for our garage we should celebrate that that pad is fully paid for and that it means a garage is coming. Instead of wondering or worrying or being frustrated that our flower beds lack flowers I will rejoice that my husband can build flower beds for me, that we had left over metal border from our “old” house, and that he thought to make them for me without my asking. I will rejoice in finding mulch for the sale price we hoped to find at one store and didn’t, but found instead at the next store as the “always” price! And that fencing, well it’s the most amazing part because it’s all paid for too…. AND by this evening will be far enough along that all of us can live here!

So, our forever home may not totally be here yet, but we are here in it. And every new step brings us one more step closer to forever. So it is just up to us if we want those steps to be light and joyful or heavy and hard! It’s all about perspective and choosing to rejoice instead of worry, brood or lament!

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All This Noise

Isn’t it amazing that something that sounds so easy like “Be still and know that I am God.” can be SO HARD!

Lately I feel like I am drowning in a sea of noise. There is actual noise from my lovely and rambunctious and adjusting to a laid back summer schedule daughters. This noise should make me smile and laugh and enter into their imaginary, sunshiney world! However, due to the other noises I’m NOT! Inside my head there is SO MUCH noise. There is unbelievable unrest at work that weighs heavily, even though I am a teacher and I am on summer break! There is unsettledness in my husband’s job as another head coach leaves and a new one is hired and the possibility for getting the job he actually wants at work hangs just out of reach, but possible once again! There is noise that counting calories, and entering EVERY MORSEL that passes my lips is hard and weight loss is slow! There is noise to get up and work out and I don’t to, the girls were up again last night during yet another thunder storm!

I crave the peaceful surrender of being still and knowing that God is God! But even that craving feels like more pressure and more noise! So, I am pressing on. I am trying to just breathe and enjoy the girls! I keep entering EVERY MORSEL I eat and I get my workouts done whether it is early or late. I pray and I try to sing praises! And I wait. There are no answers at work. I can’t always keep up. All I can do is the task right in front of me, because lifting my eyes beyond the next step might just crush me! And I pray that somehow, I’ll find the faith to look up, not to see what’s coming, but past that to my help that comes from the hills.

Maybe God’s help comes from the top of a hill so that looking up hills won’t seem so daunting or hard. So that hills will come to mean sustenance, safety and rescue. If you have any thoughts on how to grow in being still, I’d love to hear them!

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The Key to this Journey is the Definition!

I have not written for a while before today because when my weight went up during my weigh in and a LOT of stressors came into play with work, I just wanted to stop. I continued working on this journey. I prayed for dedication, direction, peace and strength and I continued. That alone is a huge victory even though I couldn’t and still don’t really feel it! Sometimes, simply NOT stopping is a HUGE step forward.

It has been in this time of stress, feeling like a failure and battling discouragement that I have come to realize, through God’s direction no doubt, that I must understand that this is a JOURNEY. And guess what journeys can be fun and light and spectacular! AND they can be hard and dark, uphill and tough. BUT they are never short.

I may not get to my goal weight before I go back to school in the fall! That’s a huge bummer to me. I really wanted to check this off my list before the additional time constraints and stress of the beginning of the year. However, school will always start again. Life will always bring stress and hard and mess. It will also always bring joy and light and refreshment. And, I have to learn to journey through it all. So, whether my path is uphill or down, lighted or dark, I just have to keep walking and praying and choosing the joy and peace of Jesus! This journey will likely always seem long until I get to heaven and realize that it was short compared to eternity. That can be a comfort, but even that cannot be my sole focus. Because God has placed me here and told me to live today and then He will give me an easy yoke and light burden.