Sharing Rambling, Resources and Recipes for Learning in Life

Sharing Rambling, Resources and Recipes for Learning in Life

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My Faith will Lead to His Grace

If this is still about you, you haven’t learned your lesson yet

Today has been a difficult day. It started with some of the same things that are always hard, staying focused while learning for the girls, complaining that there were things that had to be done. Then on top of that our plans for the day got pushed back by 3 hours and that was devastating to the girls! The fact that this push back also gave precedence to a person who is currently treating me with disdain made it even harder for me to take. Then there is the fact that all of this day is on top of the monumental concerns I have about school in the fall for myself and the girls. And, fear and wondering what the point of this blogging thing is when views took a big dip this month. And, my husband hearing and dealing with the fact that he was told that the job offer he was getting in March when Arkansas shut down for the pandemic will now likely be withheld until there is a vaccine. And, the loss of an uncle, a dear friend and the pending loss of the father of a high school friend.

As you might imagine, I did not take the set back of today’s plans and my daughters’ devastation well. There was definitely my own bitterness and temper at play. That led to my oldest being sent to her room until her daddy got home. Being in her room is something my daughter hates. After I worked on cleaning the house for a while, I would go in to talk to her as she requested. At first, she just kept asking to please have another chance and be let out of her room. I told her that this situation wasn’t about her. Then she changed to apologizing for all the things other people had done to me. I thanked her for her apology and reminded her that it was’t their actions that had landed her in her room, it was her own. And I told her that as long as this situation remained about her that she was not understanding the lesson. My point was that until she was willing to take responsibility for her own actions and put others’ needs above her own desires, she was not getting the point of this lesson and I could not remove her discipline.  

Then it hit me. This is likely what God has been saying to me. Our family is in this prolonged time of waiting and having no idea what God’s plan is. A time where everything feels off and we keep walking forward in faith, but can only see darkness. And we want it to end. We want light and answers. BUT, at least for myself, I have to admit, I just want my answers. I want my way. I am still making this about me. I wish I could also say that this revelation led to a time of repentance and prayer and a feeling of warmth, light and renewal. But to be honest, it hasn’t. I’m sure eventually it will because God loves me and because of that love He cannot remove my discipline until I learn my lesson. And although I know what is right and I see His lesson here, my pain is so big and so raw that I cannot get this whole lesson right now. Because I still want to change my actions and posture and obey SO THAT He’ll give me what I want. Just like my daughter changed enough to apologize for her behavior, but still just to get out of her room. I CAN go that far with God. I’ll put you first and others second and then you let me out of this.  

BUT, that’s not enough. That isn’t the higher calling He is calling me to. He’s calling me to take responsibility for my actions and put others’ needs above my own because that is what is right. He is calling me to wait on Him so I can walk and not grow weary. But, I’m still stuck because the truth that we don’t think about very often in those verses about the strength of youths and eagles is that God strengthens them so that they can go on, not because He’s going to make their way easier or grant them the desires of their heart. Don’t miss my point here. God does grant us the desires of our hearts when we are focused on Him because then we allow Him to teach AND prune us to desire what He has for us. And, what He has and plans IS best. But, it is rarely easy. Right now God is calling me to wait on Him not for a change in circumstances, but for strength to live in the ones I have. He is calling me to accept that His grace is sufficient for me, not to a release from my thorns. AND, I am finding this call hard. Not because what God asks is hard, who does’t want to fly with eagles? BUT, because I want my own way. I still don’t truly trust that His ways are higher (better) than mine. And so, I want my way. And, as long as I make this about me, He can’t take away my discipline. So, here I am.

I know this post doesn’t follow the rules for a good post. I’ve listened to webinars and read about blogging. I’m supposed to offer something actionable like 5 ways to freedom in Jesus. But today, I don’t have a neat tied up package. My daughter and I made it through her lesson and she’s playing with her sister and puppy. But, I’m admittedly still stuck in my stubborn, childish, fearful fit in my soul. My pain is real and raw and big and I can’t find my way to full repentance. I’m taking steps in that direction and feel God with me each step of the way. But, it hurts and I don’t know if I have the strength to get there. But, I will keep rehearsing His truths to guide my steps anyway. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. God has a plan and a hope and a future for me. All things work together for good for those who love Him. One step at a time will eventually lead me to full obedience and the ability truly and fully follow Jesus!

What lessons is God working with you on today? Please share so we can pray each other through this.

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Running, Friend or Foe!?!

We made it over 2 miles!!

I love running. AND, I hate running. Lately, the love is winning over the hate. Running is SUPER hard for me. I am far from a natural runner. I am slow and lumbering in my gate. However, I owe much to running. It was integral in helping reach my lowest weight prior to marriage. It helped me accomplish crazy things that I would never have thought I could do, like running in many 5K’s, 1 10 K, and 3 half-marathons! It has also helped me manage the stress of teaching. I have only picked it back up on and off again (mostly off again) in the years since becoming a mother. But before I got married, it was not uncommon for me to run 3-4 miles, 4-5 times a week.  

After I got married, it wained as I spent more time with my husband, who, although he did run one half-marathon with me, despises running! Once I got pregnant with our first daughter, I kissed running goodbye! I was incredibly sick with “morning” sickness for the majority of my pregnancy. Running was so far from anything I could consider while working full time teaching kindergarten and trying not to throw up too often. I did however dream about running during both of my pregnancies. After our oldest daughter was born, I spent most of time surviving my return to full time teaching while taking care of a baby who did not really like to sleep. Then, before she really got the hang of sleeping (she still struggles a lot with it sometimes as an eight year old), we were expecting her sister. This time the sickness lasted all of my pregnancy and I threw up so much that my oldest would fake throwing up to copy me.

Now, my girls are 6 and 8 and we have had extra time at home. So, for the first time in these past 9+ years I have run somewhat regularly. The regularity is still more of an ebb and flow as I figure out how to make it work with the other, more important, responsibilities I have. Unfortunately, my dislike of running still rears its head and pulls me off track. BUT, now I also have an adorable 6 year old who has certainly caught the health and fitness bug! Just tonight as I was finishing dinner, she came out dressed to run and reminded me that we needed to get our run in. We were supposed to go yesterday, but I got caught up sewing a project for my sister-in-law’s online shop. I told her yesterday that we would go today. Then we got busy with dentist appointments for myself and our oldest, and a breakfast and shopping adventure for my little running partner and her Grammie to celebrate her birthday.  

So, we headed out for a run after dinner. As I was getting changed, I asked her if she wanted to go for a long run or just run until she wanted to turn around. I admit being super relieved when she said we’d just run until she wanted to turn around. My heart dropped when she changed her answer before I finished getting ready to wanting to use my phone and C25K app to go on a long run. I accidentally started her on this last week when I invited her to run with me instead of ride her bike, like she normally does, and pushed the button to re-start my C25K app back at Week 1, Day 1. Or so I thought. After running for what was definitely longer than 90 seconds, or whatever the Day 1 run duration is, I checked to make sure the app was still working. Good news, it was! Bad news, it had picked up where I left off about a month ago and we were doing Week 6, Day 2 instead. And, that amazing little girl of mine kept up with all but the last few minutes of the runs. Tonight we did Week 6, Day 3 and she took one 45 second to 1 minute break. We covered just over 2 miles in total distance and ran for 20 minutes total. She is amazing and I told her several times thank you for getting me out there to run! Also, as I have run with her, I have perhaps caught the running bug again. There is something refreshing about making it through a run that you don’t think you can. It is phenomenal for me to make it through a super hard work out and be covered in the sweat of that hard work. Most importantly, I am giving my daughter a habit that will serve her well for her whole life. If she falls in love with running or any exercise activities at 6 years old then she is being set up for success. And, it does seem that she is a natural runner. That can take her places. Places like good health, good habits, the development of perseverance, stress relief, camaraderie from possible future track teammates, and even college scholarships. She may not always love it, but this is one preference of hers that I certainly want to feed and facilitate.

So, my love/hate relationship with running continues. And as I receive more and more gifts from running, I admit the hate part is waning and the love part is growing! What kinds of activities do you love and hate? What things are your children helping you grow in? Please share below so that we can grow together!

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3 Ingredient Peanut Butter Cookies

Heading for the oven!

When I first saw this recipe I thought of my sister. She and her husband have avoided gluten for several years for various reasons. Recently they are both finding that perhaps they can have more gluten if they limit or eliminate dairy. These cookies would be perfect for them regardless of which they are trying to limit or eliminate. I emailed the recipe to my sister the day I saw it. This week I finally decided to try it myself.

The girls are having their birthday party this Friday. We have always done one party for the two of them since Brinley’s, our youngest, first birthday. We did separate parties that year, so Brinley could have her special 1 year celebration. Since then, because Whitley’s birthday is June 15th and Brinley’s is July 25th, the girls share their party in between. We do celebrate as a family with each girl on their actual birthdays. But, their party with extended family and friends is shared. This year their party is on July 10th, and the girls are celebrating turning 8 and 6. We are planning to decorate cookies, have cake and ice cream, make s’mores and then the girls are having their first sleep over.

They are SO excited and I thought this would be the perfect time to try this peanut butter cookie recipe so that we could have a variety of cookies for people to decorate. It would also be an easy way for me to make sure that I have treats that everyone can eat at the party. In an effort to keep from having a ton of stuff to do on the day of the party I have been baking some of the cookies each day. I started with the peanut butter cookies yesterday. That way, if I didn’t like them, I would have the chance to figure out something different, and if I did like them I would have one thing out of the way. The good news is that the cookies are delicious, so I don’t have to figure out something different. The bad news is the cookies are delicious, so I will be needing to make another batch tomorrow since we don’t have enough left for the party after having some with our tea yesterday and Daddy having some for his evening snack after that.

The girls and I have started having “High Tea” at 3:00 each day. This allows us to get our read aloud time in, we are currently reading The Magician’s Nephew by CS Lewis, without anyone getting frustrated or upset about it. I have also been able to incorporate a little bit of Bible Study with our time. Monday we talked about Proverbs 31 to explain our new shirts from Aunt Dally’s company, More Than Rubies Designs. Yesterday and today we learned from Brinley’s Sunday School lesson about prayer. Her Sunday School teacher is the best Sunday School teacher in the world!! Mrs. Janie has sent Brinley’s Sunday School lessons to us every single week since Sunday School has shut down because of this pandemic! It has been a truly sweet time. I am SO grateful for these moments with my girls and I am working to treasure each one and “making the most of the time for the days are evil”. I want to use every opportunity I can get to build my daughters’ faith before they head back to school in August!! So, tonight I want to share this new, simple and amazing recipe with you. It may not be a simple supper, but it’s still a simple recipe.

Gluten and Dairy Free Peanut Butter Cookie Recipe:

1 cup Peanut Butter

1 cup + 1/4 cup Sugar (separated)

1 large Egg

Gluten and Dairy Free Peanut Butter Cookie Directions:

  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees with racks in the two center positions.
  2. Place peanut butter, 1 cup of the sugar, and the egg in food processor (the original recipe used an electric mixer, but mine is a little bit of a hassle to get out, so I used my food processor)
  3. Process until well mixed and a large ball of dough forms. It may still appear a little crumbly, but should stick together easily if you press on it.
  4. Use a small cookie scoop and scoop the dough into balls (you should end up with 20-24 cookies)
  5. Roll each ball in the additional 1/4 cup sugar
  6. Place each ball on ungreased cookie sheets
  7. Dip fork into sugar and gently press each ball, repeat on each ball in the opposite direction to create hash marks on each cookie
  8. Place each cookie sheet on it’s own rack in the oven and bake for 7 minutes
  9. Switch the baking sheets to the opposite shelf in the oven and bake for an additional 7 minutes
  10. Take out and allow to cool for 2 minutes on the cookie sheets
  11. Remove from cookie sheets to cooling rack to finish cooling
  12. Store in an airtight container on the counter or in the refrigerator
Getting ready to switch racks for the last 7 minutes of baking!

I hope this simple recipe is a wonderful, sweet dessert to add at the end of one of your simple suppers, like Smothered Pork Chops or Beef Fried Rice! If you try it and your family loves it, be sure to comment below and tell us how it went and how long your cookies lasted!

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We’re Quarantined Again!

The girls practicing their “tricks”!

One of my sister’s brother’s-in-law responded to a medical emergency involving complications due to Covid-19. We’re grateful for his service. The hard thing is the subsequent exposure to him by my sister’s family and then my whole family to my sister’s family led us to feeling the need to quarantine ourselves from my family for two weeks. It felt like we had just started being able to see people and since 80% of the people the girls and I spend time with outside of ourselves are my family it was a major shut down for us. Being isolated has shown me a few things.

First, it highlights the holes and weaknesses of my relationship with God. In Him we are never alone. But, I have become dependent on people to be my sounding board and comfort to get through hard things. When that support system is physically removed, I am actually in a better place to create real change in my situation. But it feels the opposite! It feels like I am alone and my problems are bigger and I get stuck in my head a LOT more often. And in my head things a HUGE mess right now! I am learning to rely on God and use Him as my sounding board. That’s a much better thing anyway. Since in talking with Him I’m not gossiping. Since He alone can do something about most of the things I am concerned about and struggling with. And since He is perfect and, though I may hurt His feelings, He forgives more easily than people can. I know all these TRUTHS! I am grateful for the scripture I’ve been taught and have read and memorized and taught and helped the girls memorize. I just have to practice rehearsing the truth over and over in my mind instead of my problems. I am working on it, but it remains a struggle and truly a work in process.

I have also learned it is the little things that matter. It is taking the time to visit with my daughters. It is playing Go Fish and laughing at nothing. It is watching their flips and tricks and taking pictures and making videos to send to cousins they can’t see because of Covid and great grandmas they can’t see due to distance. It is being creative about birthday celebrations and vacations because of the virus and closed businesses. It’s a chance to expand our circle of people and strength other friendships. It’s finally painting the bunk beds their daddy and uncle built them for Christmas. It is about celebrating a replacement car even if it isn’t the one I wanted. It is celebrating healthier tomato plants even if I don’t know if we’ll get more than our one tomato. You see this road is rocky and these circumstances are fibrous (no pun intended), but it is what I ruminate on (to borrow an illustration from the way cows eat) that feed my soul. A cow has 7 stomachs and their food has to go through a lot of digestion to give the cows the nutrients they need. The nutrients are in the grass, but the cows have to really let that grass sit and they have to chew it and ruminate it to get to those nutrients. I can ruminate on the hard things and poison my soul with all the hard there is today. Or I can ruminate on all the blessings and nourish my soul with all the good there is today. This is a choice that is honestly so hard to make right now it barely feels like a choice. I honestly want to wallow in self-pity and cry and throw a big old hissy fit. But, I won’t feel better when that’s done because it won’t change anything. So, I am choosing instead to feed myself truths even when they seem patronizing and useless because the truth will set me free. By focusing on it, I will eventually be freed from this grouchy, negative place of hard and revel in the beauty that surrounds me. At least that’s the truth I read in the Bible and it’s what I’m clinging to in this long season of helplessness to change my situation.

This past week, and the one ahead, where I can’t see my family have been and will be hard. They will all be together tomorrow for the 4th of July. All except us! Just like it was all except us at Easter. And I’ll probably cry about it. But, I do have these three amazing human beings I do get to see, and a chance to see my Nanna outside during some fireworks tomorrow night. And that is the good I am striving to focus on. The sunshine on my cloudy day!

I fear what the school year holds for my daughters and for me. But again that is something I cannot control. I have talked to some other teachers about some of the possibilities, I have checked my email every day hoping for any inkling of what is coming. But none of that really helps me feel better. Today my intention will be to pray or speak a truth whenever I start to worry or pity myself. I will remind myself that God is the only one REALLY in charge of school this fall. I will be grateful for the fact that several of our board members and our superintendent know that and rely Him for their direction. I will mess up today and grumble and worry, but if I set and reset my intention to focus on and ruminate on truth then I will have a more positive outlook and will see more of the sun in my partly cloudy skies instead of just the clouds.

That is where I am today in my isolation from people and my invitation to the throne room of grace. Where are you today? What things can I pray with you about?

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5 Things to Listen for When Your Child Reads

The girls working on their AMI assignments!

I have been working with both girls on their reading and with my sister and niece on helping her become a proficient reader as well. In thinking about this journey with these precious girls, I have thought of 5 different things that parents or teachers should listen for when they listen to their readers. I know that it is vital to correct readers as they read so that they do not develop compensation strategies or learn bad or incorrect reading habits. However, if you don’t know what you are listening for or what to do when you do hear your child make mistakes then it can feel like a useless and frustrating experience. So, I have put together a few things to listen for and some possible causes and correcting strategies for those specific mistakes.

  1. Mispronunciation of letter sounds

If your child is reading and they read an unknown word with one mispronounced sound, like reading last instead of the list, pat instead of put or sit instead of lit, then the first step would be to ask then to sound out the word. If they sounded it out to begin with, but read one of the sounds incorrectly, ask them to sound it out again. If the wrong sound is used again, ask the reader to spell the word. Then have them sound it out again. If they are still using the incorrect sound, ask them the sound of the letter they are miscueing on. If they give the correct sound have them sound out the word again. Repeat this until they use the correct sound with each letter. If they give you the wrong sound for the miscued letter, give them the correct sound and have them repeat the sound to you a few times. Then have them sound out the word again. Once they have sounded out the word correctly continue on.

If this is an extremely frustrating process for your child you might just note the miscued word and letter. Then work on it at a better time when they are fresh and are less likely to reach frustration level. Also, always note the letters that your reader miscues on, especially if it is the same letter/letters repeatedly. Then at a separate time work on the sound of that letter to increase automaticity of the sound. Often when a reader is making this kind of miscue they may know the sound the letter makes (they have accurate knowledge of the sound), but they do not have instant recall of it (they do not have automatic knowledge of the sound).

2. Word Calling

My oldest tends to start doing this when she gets tired of reading. My youngest does it when she’s reading at the upper level of her independent reading band or she is intimidated by what she is reading or her audience. Word calling is when a reader looks at the first or first couple of letters and then just calls a word from their oral vocabulary that matches that letter or beginning like saying instance for ice, or yellow for yelling, or accentuate for accident. That last one may seem unlikely for you, but I have certainly heard something similar from my oldest. She has a large oral vocabulary that far exceeds to her sight word vocabulary. If you are not sure what sight word vocabulary is, I explain it more in my post on Orthographic Mapping. So, once she’s tired of reading and sounding out words she will just sound out the first couple letters and then pull a word form her oral vocabulary and use it instead of whatever is actually written on the page. The most remarkable thing is that even with doing this and often making the mistake talked about in number 5 she manages to gain the gist of the story and typically have remarkable comprehension!

One strategy that I have seen for this is from the book Equipped for Reading Success by David Kilpatrick. He talks in it about compensation strategies struggling readers will use and he suggests sometimes having students work out words from the middle out or from the end forward. That means choosing one of the syllables from the end or middle and covering the rest of the word up and then work from that point to the rest of the word. So, if your readers was word calling the word invisible, you could have them read the consonant le syllable at the end by covering up everything but ble, then add in visi for visible and then add in the prefix to read the whole word invisible.

Another thing I work on with my girls is just telling them to reread and to always be sure to read all the way through the word. I generally use this when it is a shorter word they are word calling with, like saying bath for bird. Another thing to consider if this is happening a lot with your reader is that possibly they are feeling really taxed with the level or amount of reading they are doing in each sitting. So, you can either give them shorter passages to read or easier books for a time in order to increase their sight vocabulary before moving back to the longer or higher level passages or books. You can also just limit the amount they are reading from the same level of text, a chapter instead of the whole book, or a page instead of a chapter or trade off one sentence that you read and one sentence that they read.

3. Sounding out known words

I find that this happens sometimes when a reader gets nervous about a change in their audience or overwhelmed with the text they are reading. Sometimes, I think it also just happens by habit. If a reader has been reading a passage or book, especially if it a decodable text, and they have kept automatically reading a word that is in their sight vocabulary and then all of a sudden they try to sound it out instead, there are usually a few reasons I have noticed. One is that they are paying more attention to who is listening and worrying about their reaction than they are paying to the text or story. Another reason is that they are used to being prompted to sound words out and they revert to that habit. A third and similar reason is that the sentences or page that the student in on has several other words that the reader does have to decode (sound out) and so again they revert to that habit even on a word that they don’t have to use decoding to read.

I find it most helpful to just prompt them to read the whole word at once. Or, if it is a word that has been repeated throughout the text and they have been reading it automatically from their sight vocabulary, I show them one printing of it that they read automatically and the one they just sounded out and show then that they are the same word. I will often interrupt their sounding out to show them the match, so that they do not fully revert to sounding out that word.

4. Using the wrong vowel sounds

Sometimes when a learner is reading they will use a long vowel sound when they should use a short sound or visa versa. This is generally a similar issue to using the wrong sound for one of the letters when sounding out words. You may notice this as a new problem for a reader who has never done it before after introducing long vowel sound words like Open Syllables or Silent e Syllables. Then the learner may over apply those rules and start reading CVC words they never had trouble with before with long vowels, like reading cat as cate or pick as pike. This is again a problem with having accurate knowledge of a vowel rule, but not automatic knowledge. This can best be addressed with additional practice with a blending board and going back and forth between open and closed syllables like he and hen and practice with words like can and then adding a Silent e and making the word cane. As the reader gets more practice with activities like this their knowledge grows from accurate to automatic.

5. Reading the wrong word with the correct letters

This is the hardest one for me to give suggestions on. First, let me tell you what I mean by it. This is when a reader reads left for felt. So, they have seen all the letters and are using the correct sounds for them, but they have reordered them in their brain and called the wrong word. The best hope here would be that the reader would be paying enough attention to the story or passage that they would recognize their error when the sentence no longer makes sense. Sadly, that is not always the case.

The first thing I would try when this happens is to simply stop the reader and tell them to reread the sentence that the incorrect word was in. If the reader doesn’t correct their mistake then I would ask them to tell me the meaning of the sentence and reread again. I would do this to see if that causes them to correct their misread. If it still doesn’t correct their mistake then I would have them sound out that specific word. At times I have had readers who struggle a lot with this difficulty, sound the word out correctly and still say the misread word. So, the child reading left incorrectly as felt would correctly sound out /l/ /e/ /f/ /t/ and then when blending together into the word would still say felt. I would ask them to try again a couple of times. If it still doesn’t work, I will sound out the word orally to the student and see if that causes them to hear left instead of felt. If that still doesn’t work, I will ask them to say the sounds and ask them if that makes the word felt or left. Often by this point, especially if they are listening and not looking at the word they will call the correct word. The last thing I try to do for this is to have the child tell me the word again and then spell it for me to help move them to completing their orthographic mapping of that word.

Now you have a few specific things to listen for when listening to your growing readers. And some strategies that will help you help them outgrow some of these limiting habits. Also, here are a few of my biggest take aways from working with readers:

  1. Some accurate reading is better than a lot of inaccurate reading
  2. Never be afraid to let readers read easier text on occasion to build confidence and alleviate compensating habits
  3. Be sure to encourage and compliment as often as you corret
  4. Use as many authentic reading opportunities as possible for practice, (reading to younger students, reading directions, reading a recipe, etc.)

Let me know if you have encountered any of these struggles with your readers. If you try any of these tips to help them overcome these troublesome habits, please share how it goes.

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School This Fall

First Day of School!

This is my absolute favorite first day of school picture!! Whitley was headed to First Grade, Brinley to Pre-K, and Adam to his second year in our hometown district. We were all at school (at least the same district) together! It was one of those perfect moments that you cherish and want to freeze in time. In a lot of ways I still wish it would have frozen. If it had frozen I wouldn’t be faced with all the churning emotions I am facing now! This day was the beginning of a dream come true for our family. Adam was finally a full time coach, I was working in Title I which was more aligned with my strengths in data analysis, remediation and coaching and both girls were blissfully headed to a new beginnings at the elementary school I went to and in the district both Adam and I graduated from!

However, nothing about that moment did freeze. The girls are older and facing new dimensions in their education that have me constantly working to stay ahead of them in knowing how best to teach them and help them grow. I am also constantly wondering and evaluating what kind of an education would best meet their needs and help magnify their strengths while strengthening their weaknesses. Adam has stepped away from coaching due to some differences in his faith and feelings and the direction some parts of the athletic department were going. I am now back in the classroom in the Middle School teaching remedial reading. All of these things, topped off with home and virtual schooling through the Corona Virus last spring and the uncertainties of what school will be like in the fall, have made our upcoming return a source of continued angst for me.

I loved the chance to be at home and be the girls’ teacher. There were certainly difficult days as they adjusted to my expectations and I adjusted to their needs. All that while working with my own students online. No matter how difficult the day was, I still loved the chance to be there with them. And they benefited from the chance to have that small group or individual instruction tailored to their needs. As always I want to take EVERY opportunity to recognize the AMAZING teachers my daughters have had and the TREMENDOUS heart and impact they have given and had on the girls. I will never be able to thank them for all that they have and continue to do for the girls. However, my momma’s heart tugs at me every time I think of another year of spending so little time with them and giving up the chance to help them individually and give them such specialized and strategic teaching as can only be afforded in such a low teacher/student ratio.

On top of those concerns, we have the uncertainty of what school will even look like in the fall. Will we all have to wear masks? Will the girls have school every day? Will I be teaching students in the classroom or on the computer or both. Our district is getting a new superintendent for the 2020-2021 school year. And, although, I am ecstatic about this addition to our district, she doesn’t start until July 1st and that means planning for the fall is going much slower than I would like it to. As of today I only have 6 weeks until I return to school for in-service, but I have no idea what school will look like for myself or my daughters when they return in 7 weeks.

In addition to this Adam is contemplating a return to coaching and has made some soft steps in that direction, while still pursuing some other out-of-education options. However, as with our plan for school in the fall, none of that is nailed down for him either. He was on the brink of a job offer the week our state closed down for Covid-19. That job offer still stands tentatively depending on the continued upswing of the company as we start to emerge from shut down.

All of this uncertainty and a longing to be a greater part of my daughters’ lives, education and faith have left me anxious and, quite honestly, full of dread for the upcoming start of school. BUT, God is sovereign, good and LOVE. He loves my daughters more than I do and He has a plan for our family even if we don’t know what it is or if it doesn’t seem to be one we want. So, day after day, I choose to praise Him and leave my cares at His feet. I have to do it day by day and honestly sometimes minute by minute. He is faithful, but my faith is wavering. Yet, I press on towards the upward call of Christ Jesus. I strive to remember all of this is fleeting and temporary and He will give me enough time in those fleeting moments with my babies. He will establish us in Him and that is an establishment that cannot be shaken or overcome.

These are the struggles I am facing today. What are you trusting God to be working out on your behalf? Please share so I can pray for you and your journey of faith!

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Essential Minerals are Changing our Lives!

I have heard and read a lot about natural remedies and health options. I was raised taking “sugar pill” homeopathic medicine. They weren’t really sugar pills, they were natural medicine from God’s creation and they really worked. My husband was raised in a family of nurses who are fully trained in western and synthetic medications. I believe both of these things have an important place in our lives and health. I believe that we should always seek natural first, but be willing to consider manmade or synthetic when we need them!

Before, I say anything else. I want be clear about a few things. My husband is very good about wrangling my experimental nature in with the wisdom of the necessity of researching FIRST. I am not a medical expert of ANY kind. I am not recommending ANYTHING for you, I am just sharing what has made such a big difference for myself and my daughter. This information would hopefully empower you to have a conversation with your doctor or to do your own research for things that might help you improve your and your children’s well being!

Since, I love all things natural based, I have experimented a couple of times with making my own toothpaste. One of the ingredients in the recipe I use is Trace Mineral Drops. I ordered the brand recommended on the Weed ’em and Reap website that I got my toothpaste recipe from. So, we use Concentrace Trace Mineral Drops.

Since, I love learning and I love my daughters, they have been one of the things that have propelled me further and further into research on natural remedies for everything from cavities to sleep to focus to reading. Both our girls have had WAY more tooth decay (a.k.a. cavities) than I ever expected. I haven’t had a cavity yet and my husband has only had about 4. So, when our oldest had 7 at the age of 5 I started looking for natural ways to help and that led me to the toothpaste.

This same daughter also struggles with attention and focus and sleep. As, I have done more researching and reading I have read a lot about the importance of magnesium for a huge range of things in our bodies. Some of those are sleep and calm. As I read more and more about this mineral, I remembered the drops we had in the pantry for making toothpaste and I looked to see which minerals they included.

They include magnesium, chloride, sodium, potassium and sulfate, lithium and boron. The highest percentage of all of these? You guessed right! Magnesium. Since, our oldest struggles with sleep she would/will often struggle with getting tired. Tiredness for her would be manifested in extra or hyper energy, crankiness and low to absolutely no emotional control. So, after a lot of discussion AND consulting with their pediatrician, we tried giving some of these drops to the girls. We just wanted to see if they would help with any of the attention or emotional control issues our oldest was having. We gave the drops to both girls just to keep things even, and they are essential minerals so it seemed like they’d benefit anyone.

This particular brand of drops tell you on the bottle that they have a strong flavor and they’re telling the truth! So, we started with mixing a pediatric dose into a lunch box sized cup of apple sauce. It worked perfectly as long as all of the applesauce got eaten. This usually wasn’t an issue unless we forgot about it until a full breakfast had been eaten. Also, occasionally the girls got tired of eating applesauce. What we have currently settled on after trying many things from mixing with honey to diluting in water is to fill a 2 ounce cup with juice (apple juice does not work, grape and a mango mix work the best for us) and adding the drops. We have also increased the amount of drops our oldest takes from the pediatric (ages 1-3) dose to just under 1/2 a dose (she takes between 12-15 drops a day). Everyone seems to be pleased with this method and they are still able to get it down if we forget until after breakfast.

These drops have had a BIG impact on our daughter’s well being. She is better able to regulate her emotions when she has them. These and lavender oil rubbed on her feet or behind her ears also help her sleep better at night. We also use epsom salts in her baths if she seems over tired or extra keyed up. We have tried other magnesium options like gummies, but they do not have the same effect for her. When we were doing the gummies instead of the drops she had a pretty major emotional episode with no real apparent reason. But, when she has the drops those episodes become decidedly less frequent. So, for our family these drops are the only way for us to give her the magnesium she seems to need to balance her emotions, will, and abilities.

Even though the drops were working well for our daughter, I still kept learning and reading as much as I possibly could on more things that would help her or just natural things we might need in order to support our bodies to do the things God calls us to do. One thing that kept coming up when I would read about magnesium was it’s ability to help mom’s with their energy levels, quality of sleep and emotional control (it is said to help alleviate anxiety and possibly depression). So, since it had helped our daughter so much and since I was struggling a LOT with anxiety this past school year (even before Covid-19 hit!!) I decided to try taking the drops myself. We are always trying to stay on a budget and I especially have trouble using extra things that I might not “need” that will end up costing us extra money. That is why I was hesitant to try the drops at first, I wanted them to last as long as possible for the girls. For that reason, the first time I started to take them I would only take half of a dose. And, honestly it seemed to intensify my emotions, so I stopped. Then I was struggling again and reading more and more about how this specific mineral was supposed to help. I also think it was during this time also that I read a post about something Adrienne at Whole New Mom had tried once that didn’t work, but she tried again because it was supposed to and it did. Those things combined together to push me to try the drops again and commit to taking them for a month. I took a full dose every morning and they REALLY started to make a difference. The best way that I can describe it was that it felt like I was lifting my head up out of a heavy fog that I had been living under. It started to feel like there was possibility in life again and I wasn’t sad and overwhelmed all the time.

Recently, we were running low on drops and I hadn’t ordered more yet. So, I stopped taking them to make sure we didn’t run out for the girls. Since our schedules have been rather scattered since March, it took longer than usual to order, and I went awhile without them. I also managed to hurt my shoulder somehow during this time. The pain from my shoulder was going through my back and growing despite my efforts to stretch it out. The essential oils I was putting on my shoulder would help at night, but by the end of the day I was in more and more pain. The new drops came in and I had a day where I just felt awful all day. I skipped my workout in the morning and just dragged, had no energy and more and more pain in my shoulder throughout the day. That night I took a double dose of the drops and went to bed early. My pain was greatly relieved the next day and I felt like my energy was really starting to come back. I have not missed a dose since then. I even got up out of bed one night when I realized I had forgotten to take any that day.

These drops and more specifically, in my OPINION, magnesium have really made a world of difference for our family. In helping both my daughter and I regulate our emotions much better and giving us better rest. I sleep so much heavier and feel like I get much higher quality sleep when I take these drops, especially if I take them at bedtime. I have not switched to taking them at night yet, but I am certainly contemplating it. I wanted to share this with you to give you something to discuss with your doctor or for you to research for yourself if you are struggling with sleep, calm, energy or anxiety. Please do not take my word in deciding to take these drops or anything like them, use wisdom and the professionals in your life to guide your journey! Also, I want to be completely transparent. I still get tired, today in particular has been pretty rough! In addition, our daughter is still her super energetic-anti-sleep-try anything and always has a better and different way of doing things-self. BUT, this mineral must really be as important as I’ve read and these drops have really helped both of us be able to regulate life better. What minerals have you found to be essential to your well being or that of your children? Where do you find reliable information on natural options to optimize health? Please share in the comments below to help us continue learning together!

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Mary, Martha and two baby girls

If you are like me you have heard of the two sisters in the Bible named Mary and Martha. Martha is the hardworking, behind the scenes one who gets all flustered when a bunch of people come to dinner and she feels like she can’t keep up. Mary is the one whose focus remains on Jesus no matter what is going on around her. I’ve heard multiple sermons and lessons on these two ladies and the virtues of both. The trouble I have is that I relate mostly to Martha and wish mostly to be Mary. I’ve always aspired to be a Mary while most of the time remaining a Martha. I have family and friends that are more Maryish than I am and I look up to them.

Now, let me be very clear. I know that Mary minded people are hard workers and get a lot of things done. They are people I lookup to and aspire to become more like. This is because they keep their eyes and focus on Jesus and therefore become more like Him and reflect Him all the more brightly. I tend to be more of a Martha, though. Getting distracted by the things that need to be done and trying desperately to keep up, more often describes me, than someone able to block all that out find and maintain a quiet and attentive relationship with Jesus.

The thing I am starting to realize though, is that although I do have more Martha tendencies, I am able to have attributes of both of them at different times. I may aspire to be a Mary, but Jesus loved Martha just as much as He loved Mary. That means that there are valuable things to be learned from both of them. They were both cherished friends of Christ. They both had a special and deep friendship with Him. It is reassuring to me to know that even though I may get distracted and activity focused instead of Jesus and people focused, I can have a deep and growing friendship with Christ.

As I recognize that even if I am a Martha, I can have Mary moments, I recognize that the things that make us unique are what make us valued. We should not seek to become like someone else (except Jesus), we should seek to be the very best version of ourselves. God made no mistakes when he made us. Each of us is a cherished treasure to him and have things unique to ourselves, temperaments and personalities. We must work to keep our eyes on Him and aspire to become more like Him. In doing that, we will bring the best version of ourselves and the gifts He has given us to help the world and love Him more.

This recognition also helps me treasure and value my daughters. They are just about as opposite as possible. Even to the point that until very recently, when we would have Chili Dogs on Wednesdays at church, one would eat just chili and the other would eat just a hotdog. The girls are very different and have their own unique gifts and treasures to add to our family and all of their relationships. I must make time each day to recognize their gifts and strengths. I must help them to recognize their strengths and teach them how to use them to enrich and bless the lives of those around them. As I treasure them and their uniqueness, I pray that they will recognize their own talents and fall more deeply in love with the God who gave those gifts to them. I pray that if I treasure their gifts and uniqueness it will also teach them to treasure the unique gifts of all those they encounter.

As we recognize the gifted uniqueness God has put into ourselves, we can see that gift in others. If we struggle to see it in ourselves we will likely struggle to see it in others. But, if it is easier for you to recognize the unique giftedness of others than yourself, take heart! Because whether you start with the foundation of your own unique gifts or those of other people, you have to even out the equation so to speak. Just as a math equation has to be balanced on both sides, if God has placed blessed uniqueness in others it must be in you AND visa versa. This has to be true because God created all of us! The only thing that can distort this giftedness is lacking Christ. Once He enters our hearts He lights up the mosaic of the gifts He’s placed within us.

Have you trusted Him with your life and the gifts He’s given you? What unique gifts have you seen Him use either from yourself to others or from others to yourself?

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Smothered Pork Chops

Delicious, SUPER simple Smothered Pork Chops

This recipe is another of the surprises I concocted for NannaLee and the girls when we were over for our weekly visit. For those who may have missed the post about the Beef Alfredo Casserole from the week before, Nanna and I have started playing a “game” when the girls and I come to visit. Our “game’ is that Nanna chooses and thaws her choice of meat for our lunch and then I am left to find something to go with it in her fabulously stocked pantry. It has become one of the highlights of our week to go see her and I know it blesses her. When Papa passed away and she moved into her “retirement” house, it was the first time to live all by herself. The isolation of self quarantining after her recent missions trip to Peru really took a toll on her VERY social soul! In addition to this it is such a blessing for the girls to learn form her and to be treasured by her. Grand and Great Grand Parents are SUCH a gift for children and families.

The meat of her choice this week was pork chops. Her pork chops were VERY thick, close to two inches. So, since she had two of them and there were four of us and they were so thick I sliced each one in half. I decided to try a version of smothered pork chops, then added a box of quinoa and wild rice mix as a side and we rounded out the meal with a bagged Caesar Salad. This week Brinley helped with the quinoa and mixed up the salad for lunch. She really loves cooking and I was so impressed about three weeks ago when she basically made dinner herself at home and made an easy version of Parmesan Chicken. Everyone including myself gave these pork chops an A+ rating. I was concerned that it might be a little bland, but it was very flavorful in my opinion. So without further ado, here is the recipe.

Smothered Pork Chops:

4 Pork Chops

1 can Cream of Mushroom Soup

1 can of mushrooms or mushroom pieces

Salt and Pepper (optional)

2 tbsp Olive Oil

Smothered Pork Chops Directions:

  1. Put the oil in a skillet and heat over medium heat
  2. Salt and pepper both sides of the pork chops (optional to taste preference)
  3. Place the pork chops in the skillet and cook for 1-2 minutes on each side, just long enough to sear the meat
  4. Turn off the burner and remove the skillet from heat
  5. Preheat the oven to 250 degrees
  6. Spoon the can of mushroom soup onto the top of the chops (dividing it equally between all four chops)
  7. Pour the juice/water from the mushrooms over the whole skillet
  8. Pile mushrooms on top of the soup on top of each pork chop
  9. Salt and Pepper the whole skillet (optional to taste preference)
  10. Place the whole skillet into the preheated oven for 10-20 minutes based on the thickness of the pork chops
  11. Turn the oven up to 375 degrees and cook an additional 5-7 minutes until everything is bubbling around the edges
  12. I slice one of my chops through the middle to ensure doneness
  13. Serve immediately

I hope this recipe is useful and delicious for your family. I was pleasantly shocked at how yummy it was since it was SO simple and had so few ingredients! If you try it please like this post or leave a comment sharing how it goes for you! What are some of your favorite simple recipes?

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Beef Alfredo Casserole Recipe

During this slower time, first from the pandemic and now from summer break, my girls and I have the wonderful chance to go over to our NannaLee’s once a week. My youngest daughter got to go to Nanna’s for “coffee” each morning when Grammie was watching her before she started school. We have all missed her having this opportunity. As a teacher I encounter students who do not have the luxury and blessing of close grandparents. I have also seen repeatedly through the use of volunteers (including my own grandmother), how much children benefit from time spent with grand and great-grandparents. They provide unconditional love, wisdom, a slower pace and a chance for children to be the center of attention and learn new boundaries, respect and wisdom! So, we are excited to be able to take advantage of this time together. Starting our second week, Nanna and I started playing a new “game”. It is that she picks and thaws the meat for lunch and then it is my job to complete the meal for our lunch using whatever I find and want to use out of her well stocked pantry. She has said that it is a real treat for her to have us over because she gets a “real” meal. Although it has been some years since Papa went to Heaven, Nanna still has not mastered cooking for one.

This is the recipe I came up with the first day we did this. She thawed about a pound and a half of ground beef and my youngest said she loves trying new noodles. So, I wanted to include noodles in my creation. I love this recipe because it is easy and because it received rave reviews from my daughters. It is even apparently world famous now, at least in the girls’ world! We were over at my brother’s house later in the week I made this recipe and he was visiting with my oldest about her day. She told him that she had Momma’s Famous Noodles for lunch (the girls had finished the leftovers that day). I’m always happy when a recipe is so well received and is full of good food for my family! Without further ado, here is the recipe.

Beef Alfredo Casserole Recipe:

1 1/2 lbs Ground Beef

1 can Sliced Mushrooms or Mushroom Pieces

1 jar Alfredo Sauce ( I used this brand)

1/2 box (about 2 1/2-3 cups dry) Radiatori Noodles (or any other similar pasta)

1/2 cup Raw Spinach

1/2 cup Raw Kale

Beef Alfredo Casserole Directions:

Brown the ground beef in a skillet over medium high heat. While that is cooking, start cooking the noodles in salted water according to package directions. Once the ground beef is close to being done, add drained mushrooms and sauté with the meat until the meat is completely cooked. This helps give some extra flavor to the mushrooms. Once the meat is done, drain the meat and mushrooms IF there is a lot of fat. Otherwise, just reduce heat to medium low, add salt and pepper to taste and stir in the jar of Alfredo sauce. Once the meat and sauce are combined turn off heat and stir in the roughly chopped spinach and kale. Adding the veggies after turning off the heat allows them enough heat to wilt and mix in without losing all of their integrity and flavor. After the noodles have finished cooking, use a slotted spoon to drain off the water as you scoop out the noodles into a casserole dish. If your skillet is large enough, you can just add the pasta to the meat sauce and stir to combine in the skillet to save on dishes. Once you have all of the noodles in the casserole dish add the meat sauce. Stir to combine and serve immediately with your choice of sides like garlic bread and salad, or artisan bread and green beans.

I hope you enjoy this hearty and flavorful meal as much as my family did. If you make it please share and tell me how it went. If you make any alterations you would recommend, please share them for myself and other readers to expand our recipe options!